Friendship: The Neglected Love

Francis Ha: A Tale Of Star Crossed Friends/Rotten Tomatoes

C.S. Lewis and The Four Loves

Clive Staples Lewis/Wikipedia

“When either Affection or Eros is one’s theme, one finds a prepared audience. The importance and beauty of both have been stressed and almost exaggerated again and again… But very few modern people think Friendship is a love of comparable value or even a love at all. I cannot remember that any poem since In Memoriam, or any novel, has celebrated. Tristan and Isolde, Antony and Cleopatra, Romeo and Juliet, have innumerable counterparts in modern literature: David and Jonathan, Pylades and Orestes, Roland and Oliver, Amis and Amile, have not.”

“But in friendship- in that luminous, tranquil, rational world of relationships freely chosen- you got away from all that. This alone, of all the loves, seemed to raise you to the level of gods or angels.”

“The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, “What? You too? I thought I was the only one”.

Frances Ha (2012): A Tale Of Star Crossed Friends

“Nothing so enriches an erotic love as the discovery that the Beloved can deeply, truly, and spontaneously enter into Friendship with the Friends you already had: to feel that not only are we two united by erotic love but we three or four or five are all travellers on the same quest.”

Conclusion

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